To begin your Friendship Refresh, take a piece of paper and write out the names of the friends you have, with whom you'd like to renew and refresh your connection.
Now, go one by one - and for each friend, go back to what made you love this friend in the first place. Are they the friend you always hysterically laugh with? Do you guys find your sweet spot when talking about deeper life questions? At the heart of your friendship, are you more cozy everyday life friends, all about checking in on each other's day-to-day, chatting about your families, and sharing ideas about books or style or cooking or plants, etc?
Think about what is at the heart of this connection for you, and try to bring more of that into your regular interactions. Start talking about the kinds of things that brought you two together in the first place, and watch your friend take the lead. Doing the thing together that you love to do together will help to remind you why you love each other as friends, and help you feel more connected.
(If you find that, as you reflect on what brought you into different relationships, you stumble upon one or a few that no longer feel like a great fit, you can come check out the tips we have for Friendship Release - when it's time to let go of friendships.)